One of the key aspects of fandom is that we are risking a little bit of our emotional and psychological health on something over which we have no control and that there was it's a little bit of gambling in a way on our happiness and that's what makes it thrilling. It's also what makes it crushing and disappointing at times, but without that sense of powerlessness, you don't get the same roller coaster.
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The essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.
Epictetus — Discourses
The longing for certainty and repose is in every human mind. But certainty is generally illusion, and repose is not the destiny of man.
Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr. — The Path of the Law
It is not so much our friends' help that helps us, as the confidence of their help.
Epicurus — Letter to Menoeceus