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Dating advice for men

A lot of men — maybe even most men — get emotionally attached to our sex partners. There are well-known natural mechanisms for this. For those guys, going through one woman after another, again and again, for years and years, is just making and breaking those attachments again and again. That's not fun, that's self-punishment.

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The Profile: The founder bulding America’s $31-billion defense startup & the NFL commissioner going to Hollywood

One thing I've learned from profiling people is that we're all driven by some unspoken need. Why do we keep doing what we do every single day? Usually, there's something we're trying to prove, resolve, escape, or heal within ourselves.

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Simone de Beauvoir on Marriage and the Freedom to Change

In reality, the self making the choices at a point in time and the self living with their consequences across the timeline of life, the self avowing the promises and the self keeping or breaking them, are never the same person. To know this about oneself is the beginning of mercy.

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Left of the Dial (Replacements cover)

As an addict, you have to remind yourself that you're still an addict, even when you aren't doing things that are terrible for you.

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I suspect that I was outsourcing my own eating

Really, though, my bereavement was internal and external justification for something I would have wanted to try anyway. I've trended toward heaviness my entire life, and food has always been a font of shame.

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My Absolutely Chaotic Adventures at Sea During the Summer of 1984

Printer wrestles with the person his chaotic childhood has trained him to be—and what pieces of himself he can salvage from the wreckage.

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How to See More Clearly and Love More Purely: Iris Murdoch on the Angst of Not Knowing Ourselves and Each Other

It is, of course, impossible to ever fully know what it is like to be someone else — this is the cost of consciousness, singular and secretive as it is; impossible, too, to fully convey to another what it is like to be you. The dream of perfectly clear vision is indeed just a dream. But we can always see a little more clearly in order to love a little more purely.

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Do Not Spare Yourself

there is no damnation greater than spending our allotted days in the catatonia of comfort and certainty, our inner lives automated by habit and halogen lit by convenience.

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Masking My Autism Made Me Sick

Looking back, adults in particular have a terrible habit of labeling as "good" what is merely convenient for them, of painting as "good" what is really just their standard for normal.

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The Courage to Be Yourself: Virginia Woolf on How to Hear Your Soul

Once conform, once do what other people do because they do it, and a lethargy steals over all the finer nerves and faculties of the soul. She becomes all outer show and inward emptiness; dull, callous, and indifferent.

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When Your Parents Are Dying: Some of the Simplest, Most Difficult and Redemptive Life-Advice You’ll Ever Receive

Death makes human beings seem like very small containers that are packed so densely we can only be aware of a fraction of what's inside us from moment to moment.

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Whatever Else You’re Doing Today, Listen to Annahstasia’s New Live Album

Her voice welds might with vulnerability, finding profound strength by admitting that there are things she is still seeking.

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Annie Dillard on Unselfconsciousness

I wonder if we do not waste most of our energy just by spending every waking minute saying hello to ourselves.