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Dads are not necessarily comfortable talking about consent in the context of sex, which is interesting, right? Because that's where we typically think that that is relevant.

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19h ago

A fact with that is if a kid lives in poverty, they're not poor. Their parents are poor and they live with them. The same way, if a kid's parents are rich, they're not rich. Their parents are rich and they live with them. So with that, all of the data, all of the characteristics of poverty, place it on the parents and not the student.

3w ago

I felt so sad for all these people who were spending so much of their very hardearned money, money they really didn't have to help their kids. It's not true. Like you could go to a fancy school and not have things work out. Every single person that you and I know can find five examples, not like one example, five examples, maybe 10 examples, maybe 20 examples of people who went to these schools. And these people did not have the life that you thought they would have or they thought they would have as a result of having gone to a name brand school.

4w ago

Technology is more like food than anything. We have our own media metabolisms. Every child is different. Every family is different. We must learn how to consume technology in a way that is going to support us rather than hurt us, because unfortunately, the systems are not built for us to thrive.

3mo ago

when I was a teenager, I hated my parents for that. I judged them very harshly because I thought that they were hypocrites. And I thought that they were cowards. And you know, when I was writing the book, my own son is now 15 years old and I put myself in the shoes of my parents. And I thought, yeah, of course, if I was in the same situation, I think I would act the same. My mother was not a coward. She was a mother.

3mo ago

The bottom line is that smart toys open a digital door into children's playtime, bedroom and hearts. And if you're thinking about opening that door, my advice to you would be to take a very careful look at what's on the other side.

3mo ago

I think that we all have really strong senses about the life that we want to live and the kind of person that we want to become, but once you have children and you're no longer living for yourself, you no longer have the time you want to do everything the right way. You can be this ardent environmentalist who's all of a sudden using disposable diapers.

3mo ago

Those early mom blogs, the mothers were the main characters. And now with family influencing on Instagram and on YouTube, really the kids became the main character and they became the draw and the mothers kind of faded into the background.

3mo ago

The answer is that adults were in distress and parents were dying. OK, let's go back to that elephant in the room. Social media and smartphones also increased during this period. But here's the weird thing. In our longitudinal studies, social media does not emerge as a major predictor of teen mental health.

4mo ago

In the animal world, fathers have long been painted as aggressive or absent. At best providers and protectors, but certainly not caregivers. And yet for every tale of a lion or chimp dad eating its own young (yikes!), there's another creature who tells a sweeter story.

4mo ago

I didn't want my kids to think that anything else was more important than them, not being in the streets, not women, not gambling, not hustling, not anything. I didn't want them to ever think that anything that I was doing was more important than them. And my father made me at times feel unimportant to him.

4mo ago

Along the way, we learn that nature doesn't offer just one model of fatherhood. Alongside Mother Nature... there just might be a Father Nature, too.

4mo ago

Which means that puberty is the worst possible time for a human being to be on social media. For our ultra-social species, that rewiring should be guided by huge amounts of social interaction in the real world, not by TikTok's algorithm.

5mo ago

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