Fresh Air

Rosanne Cash on the gift her father, Johnny Cash, gave her

And it took me, I think, until now to realize that he was really giving me himself, a part of his heart and soul.

Hidden Brain

The Things We Don't Say

We assume that other people know how we feel about them. But study after study finds that we are much worse at conveying our feelings than we think. The gap between what we feel and what others actually perceive is often enormous.

Hidden Brain

The Things We Don't Say

We assume that people can read our minds — that the people we love know how much we love them, that our friends understand we care for them, that our colleagues know how much we value them. But studies show that in reality, the people closest to us often have little idea of how we truly feel about them.

Hidden Brain

The Things We Don't Say

We often assume that the people we love know how much we care about them. But research suggests that our feelings are far less visible to others than we think — that there's a persistent gap between the love we feel on the inside and the love that actually gets communicated and received.

Hidden Brain

How to Be A Better Partner

Most of us think that being a good partner means being loving and kind and attentive. And those things matter. But researcher Shelly Gable has found that how you respond to your partner's good news may matter just as much as how you respond to their bad news — maybe even more.

Hidden Brain

How to Be A Better Partner

our fears, desires, and insecurities can shape our perceptions of our partners — sometimes creating the very reality we expect

Hidden Brain

How to Be A Better Partner

Most of us think about fairness in terms of outputs — who did more chores, who earned more money, who sacrificed more for the relationship. But researchers have found that what really matters to people is not the division of labor itself, but whether they feel seen and appreciated for what they contribute.

Hidden Brain

How to Be A Better Partner

Most people think that being a good partner means being loving, supportive, and kind. But researcher Shelly Gable has found that how we respond to our partner's good news may matter even more than how we respond to their bad news.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Emotions are not just feelings — they're a form of information processing. When you feel anxious before a presentation, for example, that anxiety is telling you something about the situation, something you've detected, possibly without being fully conscious of it.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Most of us have been taught to think of emotions as the enemy of good thinking — that to reason well, we need to push our feelings aside and rely on cold, hard logic. But the psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett says this view is exactly backwards. Emotions, she argues, aren't a distraction from thinking. They're a fundamental part of how we think.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Most people assume that feelings are the enemy of clear thinking — that in order to make good decisions, we need to suppress our emotions and rely on cold logic. But the neuroscientist Antonio Damasio discovered something surprising: people who lose the ability to feel emotions due to brain damage don't become more rational. They become less capable of making good decisions.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

We often think of emotions as the enemy of clear thinking — the force that causes us to act impulsively, or to make decisions we later regret. But psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett says this view is mistaken. Emotions, she argues, are not obstacles to rational thought — they are a necessary ingredient of it.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Most of us think of our feelings as secondary to reasoning — as things that cloud the mind and lead us astray. But research suggests that emotions don't just color our experiences; they actually give us access to information and insights that we would otherwise miss.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Some people are remarkably good at reading the emotional temperature of a situation. They can pick up on what others are feeling, manage their own emotions, and respond skillfully.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

We often think of feelings as the enemy of clear thinking — as forces that muddy the waters of rational analysis. But emotions, it turns out, are not the opposite of thought. They are a form of thought.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Emotions are not just feelings — they're a form of information. When you have a feeling, you're actually getting a signal about what's relevant, what's important, and what you might be missing. Suppressing that information comes at a cognitive cost.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Most of us have been taught to think of emotions as noise in the system — interference that distorts the signal of pure reason. But what if we've had it exactly backwards? What if emotions aren't obstacles to good thinking, but essential ingredients of it?

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

We tend to think that the best decisions are made when we're calm and dispassionate — when we manage to push aside our feelings and focus on the facts. But neuroscientist Antonio Damasio discovered something remarkable: people who lose the ability to feel emotions due to brain damage also lose the ability to make good decisions.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Emotions are not just feelings — they're information. They tell you what you care about, what matters to you, what you should attend to in the environment. If you strip away your emotions, you don't become a better reasoner; you become a worse one.

Hidden Brain

How Feelings Make Us Smarter

Emotional intelligence is one of the most popular ideas in psychology. It's also a term that's widely misused and misunderstood.

Hidden Brain

You Are Not Ordinary

Most of us intuitively feel that our inner experiences are beyond the reach of others. But psychologists have found that when we actually test this idea, our emotions, thoughts, and feelings are often far more transparent to others than we imagine — and that other people's inner lives are far more similar to our own than we tend to assume.

Daily Stoic

14 Stoic Lessons Marcus Aurelius Learned From His Father

Let the boy be human for once. Says empire doesn't take away natural feeling. And so here is a moment of grace.

CEO Signal

Starbucks CEO Brian Niccol on Leading Through Turnarounds | The CEO Signal

In the customer service business is is tough but in the end you know you can have a real influence on people um on you know the experience you ultimately provide and how you choose to react to the situation.

Fresh Air

Best Of: ‘Hamnet’ star Jessie Buckley / Documentarian Morgan Neville

The thing that this story offered me, that brought me into this next chapter of my life as a mother was tenderness, you know? And that was a word and a feeling that I think I didn't know was what I was looking for.

TED

“Stripped of the emotional component, fear is simply information” @MichelleKhare #TEDTalks

Stripped of the emotional component, fear is simply information. It tells us exactly what we need to know in order to progress.