I think that when I became a mother, I was led into this club that I didn't know existed before. And inside of this club, women are much more willing to become instantly intimate with one another because the act of raising a child is not something a person can do on their own.
I am so enamored of my mother that it prevents me from being a mother. Like my mother was so large and all-consuming that I was like I am not going to even like replicate this. It's like any sort of like carpet weaver putting like a little error in it so as not to like test the authority of like Allah.
Black women are either stereotyped as terrible mothers or just bottomlessly maternal. And so I was really interrogating what does it mean to mother by choice? And what does it mean to mother not by choice?
I realized there's nothing wrong if I am a black single mother for life. I've lived a great life as a black single mother. I had a great black single mother. It may not be my preference, but it's not a death sentence. It's not doom.
7mo ago
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