It's Been a Minute

Generative AI's race problem

I don't think that we have a lot of opportunities or enough opportunities to feel meaningfully seen. I can't really blame anybody for saying, 'Oh, this song moves me. This song makes me feel seen.' when we're in a media climate where we don't really have as many opportunities as I would like for us to feel meaningfully seen.

The Daily

Steven Spielberg on the Real Life Evidence That Inspired 'Disclosure Day'

The thing that we need to preserve in our society more than anything else, which is something which I believe is as fragile as democracy, is empathy.

Hidden Brain

Who Are You, Really?

You're not the same person with your friends as you are with your co-workers or your kids. So who are you, really?

The New York Times

How the World Cup’s Most Famous Voice Gets Ready for “GOOOAL!”

It is incredible how many times I've been stopped and recognized as the man that made people cry, which is really moving.

Semafor

Semafor Tech Summit | Semafor Events

It takes forever to really build incredible trust. It only takes a moment to break it. And that's something that we are very aware of. And AI, it just it makes it that much bigger because the use of that information can be so much more destructive if used improperly.

Book of the Day

Ann Patchett’s 'Whistler' and 'Tom Lake' are novels written with love in mind

Yes, there there are bad people in the world, but they are so outnumbered by the good people. The people who will want to help you are are so hugely present out there once you leave this car.

Book of the Day

'A Pair of Aces' is about two women who face down the mob in 1930s New York

My generation was told that we could have it all. And that meant that you could have a career, a successful career and children and a family and a home. But sometimes I feel like perhaps the men weren't told that. And so the society wasn't told that.

Book of the Day

In 'Keeper of My Kin,' Ada Ferrer struggles with being her mother's "chosen one"

I felt like that moment represented like a kind of original sin, that my success, my flourishing, my everything came from my mother's decision to take me, which was a decision that also involved leaving him behind. So, I felt guilty for being the chosen one.

EconTalk

The Self, the Crowd, and Social Contagion (with Luke Burgis)

Burgis argues that the disappearance of traditional rites of passage bodes ill for major life commitments such as marriage, and recounts his personal journey from Wall Street through the Great Books in search of a strong, differentiated self.

Book of the Day

In 'View From the East Wing,' Jill Biden reflects on the debate that changed history

It was a dark period in our lives that people we considered to be friends or supporters said such hurtful things. And so to look back, it wasn't just me and Joe. Look at our grandkids, you know, seeing them go through that and how hurt they were.

TED

How to Give Feedback That Lands | Renee St Jacques | TED

Correction without connection feels like rejection. Connection is what separates our work from our worth. It's about valuing people not just for what they do, but who they are.

Book of the Day

Ben Crump says 'Worse Than a Lie' is a legal thriller wrapped in Black culture

My grandmother, when I was a little boy, she would say, "What's worse than a lie?" And that is to tell the truth and nobody believe you.

Hidden Brain

The Empathy Gym

Some people are good at putting themselves in another person's shoes. Others may struggle to relate. But psychologist Jamil Zaki argues that empathy isn't a fixed trait.

TED

The Simple Habit for a Happier Social Life | Nicholas Epley | TED

Social connection, after all, isn't something that just happens to us. It's a choice we make.

TED

Love, Intimacy and Connection in the Age of AI | Bryony Cole | TED

Relationships were never meant to be efficient, that suddenly we're saying oh my gosh this is this is infiltrating my daytoday relationships.

TED

I Let DaddyGPT Parent My Kids. Here’s What I Learned | Stephen Remedios | TED

But daddy, DaddyGPT is never busy. And in that moment, I realized I had just been outparented by my own algorithm.

Code Switch

The minefields of parenting and race | Code Switch

Parenting activates all these anxieties and all this urgency around our identities and how we move through the world.

Book of the Day

Belle Burden on 'Strangers,' her divorce, and financial literacy for women

By the next morning he had packed his bag, said that he did not want any part of our life together, including custody of our children, and then he walked out um and left the island and became someone I did not recognize.

Book of the Day

'Spies and Other Gods' is an espionage novel by a former British intelligence officer

In a way, spying is about creating illusions. It's about double bluffs. It's about creating a sense of uncertainty in your opponent. And I think he is a sad figure and in a way reflects some of the personal cost of spying that you spend a lifetime lying to other people and also lying to those people near to you.

Fresh Air

Palestinian & Israeli activists share a vision of peace

People, I think, don't realize one small action, one kind word. You never leave the person you meet the same after you've interacted with them, and I wanted to do that for Ma'oz and for others.

TED

4 Relationship Traps That Lead to Burnout | Eric Quintane | TED

We've learned that there are two typical network structures that particularly matter... Meet Kelly. Kelly is in what we call a cohesive network structure. That means Kelly has strong relationships with her colleagues, but also all of her colleagues know each other, they trust each other, they talk with each other frequently.

Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!

Wait Wait goes wild on spring break

When I when I first made a little bit of money as an actor, the thing that gave me the most joy was to be able to send money to my mom as proof that not only was I gainfully employed, but I was sufficiently gainfully employed that I could send her some money.

Pivot

Rahm Emanuel: “Nobody Believes Our President” on Iran | Pivot

I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to tell you what I think you need to know and we're in this together rather than trying to fight each other all the time.

How to Be a Better Human

How to Confront Your Inner Critic (W/ Anu Gupta) | How to Be a Better Human | TED

I realized people aren't seeing me. people are seeing ideas of me and it was those ideas that kept me depressed and paranoid all these years and I realized I wasn't alone. I don't want to live in a world where we live in ideas of one another. I want to live in a world where we live in the presence of one another, the real people.

How to Be a Better Human

How to Confront Your Inner Critic (W/ Anu Gupta) | How to Be a Better Human | TED

I realized people aren't seeing me. I don't want to live in a world where we live in ideas of one another. I want to live in a world where we live in the presence of one another, the real people.

Prof G Markets

Is Marriage a Bad Bet? A Divorce Lawyer Explains | Prof G Markets

80% of women under the age of 30 now don't have a kid. And I don't think it's because they've decided they don't like kids. I think it's because they're having trouble finding economically and emotionally viable partners.

Fresh Air

John Lithgow

Anyone who is that successful, that much of an asset for a publisher to be fired because he was impossible to work with. I just thought, well, there's something there.

It's Been a Minute

"Girl Math" does not add up to financial freedom | It's Been A Minute

At a certain point, we have to hold ourselves accountable as women and say, "It's barely been 50 years that we can even have a credit card, that we can own property, that we can do things in our own name." to be so eager to give up all of that and to go back into this place of voluntary helplessness and voluntary ignorance in service of a very specific kind of love to me is we just can't allow ourselves to do that.

Hidden Brain

When It's Okay to Lie

Should you tell a harsh truth if it will only cause pain? Or is it sometimes kinder to keep someone in the dark?

The Origins Podcast

The Science Behind Drinking To Get Sober | Katie Herzog & Lawrence Krauss

Personally, it was more difficult. So, I lost a lot of friends, a lot of old friends, and that will never stop being painful to be abandoned by people who I'm sure that you have.

Book of the Day

In new memoirs, David Archuleta and Lindy West break with their pasts

It is so hard to try and live this way without being able to really share who I really am.

TED Radio Hour

A neuroscientist's guide to managing our emotions

Our brain is like our very own Stradivarius. When our emotions are triggered out of proportions, that's akin to me trying to play a Stradivarius violin. It can cause enormous pain for both the player as well as those around us.

Book of the Day

In the novel ‘Black Bag,’ a classroom experiment invites questions about masculinity

We often regard people as black bags, don't we? Filling in the blanks for suppositions we make without really knowing

It's Been a Minute

Many women don't want kids. And for good reason. | It's Been A Minute

You know, it is like the millennial generation I feel that has said openly, I don't want to have children, but also finding that conversation difficult to have with their parents who expected to be a grandparent.

TED

A Different Way to Measure Success in Health Care | Andrew Bastawrous | TED

The greatest gift I could give her was not her sight but to have her be truly seen.

Fresh Air

Jill Scott is in her ‘auntie’ era

you could be all of what you are, and someone would pass on it, desire you privately. But because society says that someone has to look a certain way or be a certain way or that you want to gain favor by having someone who looks a certain way on your arm, I've seen it a lot. And it's always disturbed me, quite frankly, that you're not even choosing what you actually like.

Daily Stoic

If you want to accomplish something big, watch this Stoic advice

Wisdom is not a solitary pursuit. You have to find your circle. You have to find people that make you better.

It's Been a Minute

The unbearable fear of being cheated on | It's Been A Minute

If we think of love as a set of behaviors and expectations versus a set of feelings, then it like brings in this other idea of what cheating is because it's instead of cheating as like someone being swept away by desire, maybe it's like they're doing a breach of contract, like they're not fulfilling the set of expectations that were clearly delineated.

Book of the Day

Cara Bastone's 'No Matter What' is a romance novel that begins with a separation

I really want to give them the most amount of swoon as I can. I want people to read these quieter moments that are the louder moments in the book, but quieter moments in real life and be able to relate them back and think that was really romantic when my partner did that for me.

TED Radio Hour

The TED talk that put writer Pico Iyer in “Marty Supreme”

In Japan, a game of ping pong is really like an act of love. You're learning how to play with somebody rather than against her.

TED

1 Thing You Can Do Today to Be Happier | Sonja Lyubomirsky | TED

We will feel more loved if we become more known, if we learn to talk to people in a way that takes down the walls between us.

Fresh Air

Best Of: Delroy Lindo / Tayari Jones on ‘Kin’

When you're friends with someone, you know, your name will not be listed in any obituary, but it breaks your heart to lose your friend.

Book of the Day

'One of Us' is a British political drama based on the Boris Johnson era

The idea of revenge, of nurturing it like a pet, it's the closest he can get to having that love reciprocated.

Office Hours

Scott Galloway: Grief is the Price of Love | Office Hours

The depth of our emotions and our commitment and our love for someone and how much they love us is directly correlated to the grief you're going to feel.

TED

1 Thing You Can Do Today to Be Happier | Sonja Lyubomirsky | TED

It dawned on me that almost all of the interventions that work to make us happier, they work precisely because they help us feel more connected to and loved by others.

TED

1 Thing You Can Do Today to Be Happier | Sonja Lyubomirsky | TED

The key to happiness is feeling connected and loved. And I know that sounds like a cliché, but many powerful ideas do once you distill them.

TED

How to Capture Your Audience’s Attention | Athens | TED Idea Search

Bad breath is kind of a metaphor for humanness, for being a human being, for loving somebody enough to tell them something that might be painful in the short term but very helpful in the long term.

Fresh Air

Best Of: ‘Hamnet’ star Jessie Buckley / Documentarian Morgan Neville

The thing that this story offered me, that brought me into this next chapter of my life as a mother was tenderness, you know? And that was a word and a feeling that I think I didn't know was what I was looking for.