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We've systematically removed everything that makes play what it is. The spontaneity, the freedom, the wonder, from all parts of adult life and replaced it with efficiency and achievement. And in doing so, we're losing the very survival skills that we need the most right now.

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50m ago

Most of us think we know how to learn from our mistakes. We tell ourselves we'll do better next time, or we replay the failure in our minds, hoping the sting of embarrassment will motivate us to change. But research suggests these common responses are often the least effective ways to grow from our errors — and in some cases, they can actually make things worse.

5d ago

People who have high standards for themselves can be especially hard on themselves when they make mistakes. And they spiral into self-criticism, which doesn't help them improve. What helps people improve is thinking of themselves compassionately — the way you might think of a good friend who has made a mistake.

5d ago

Most people think of mistakes as unfortunate detours on the path to success. But researcher Karen Sokal-Gutierrez has found that the relationship between error and learning is more intimate than that — that mistakes aren't just inevitable, they're essential. Without them, we don't just learn more slowly; in some ways, we don't learn at all.

6d ago

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or rationalize why the mistake wasn't really their fault. Both responses are understandable, but neither helps you do better in the future.

1w ago

Most of us think we know how to learn from our mistakes. We feel bad about them, we try to understand what went wrong, and we vow to do better. But researchers who study the science of errors say that what we think helps us learn from our mistakes often doesn't work — and some of the things we think are unhelpful actually do work.

1w ago

Most of us think we learn from our mistakes, but researchers have found that people often fail to extract useful lessons from their failures. Instead, we focus on the pain of the mistake itself, and quickly move on — which means we're doomed to repeat it.

1w ago

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or try to forget about it as quickly as possible. But research suggests there's a third option that's far more effective: approaching your errors with curiosity rather than judgment.

1w ago

Most of us think about mistakes the way we think about embarrassing moments — we want to put them behind us as quickly as possible. But researchers who study learning say this is precisely the wrong approach. The moments just after making a mistake, it turns out, are among the most powerful opportunities for the brain to encode new information.

1w ago

Most of us think of failure as something to move past as quickly as possible — something to hide or explain away. But researchers have found that the people who benefit most from their mistakes are those who do the opposite: they slow down, sit with the discomfort, and try to understand exactly what went wrong and why.

1w ago

Most people think the best response to a mistake is to move on quickly — to put it behind them and not dwell on it. But research suggests that this instinct can actually prevent us from learning. The most effective way to learn from failure isn't to forget it — it's to engage with it carefully and deliberately.

1w ago

Most people, when they make a mistake, do one of two things: They beat themselves up, or they rationalize away the mistake and blame other people. Neither approach actually helps you learn and do better in the future.

1w ago

You think your brain's made for thinking, but it's not. It's made for preventing you from having to think whenever possible because thinking is like energetically costly. And so left to your own devices, your brain goes for convenience, like doing things you've done before, not working too hard, all these things. So it's only if you block that proclivity for convenience that you can actually do hard things.

1w ago

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up excessively or they dismiss it entirely. Neither of these responses is actually useful. The sweet spot is to be like a good mentor to yourself — to acknowledge that you made a mistake, to understand why, and then to move forward.

1w ago

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or they get defensive and they deny that they made a mistake at all. Both of those responses are understandable — but both make it harder to actually learn from what went wrong.

1w ago

Most of us have had the experience of being in a new place and noticing things we'd never seen before — a gorgeous mural on the side of a building, a family of ducks in a pond, the way light filters through leaves. But over time, as a place becomes familiar, we stop seeing it. We go on autopilot. The same thing can happen with people.

1w ago

Most of us have been taught to think about luck as something fleeting — a good parking spot, or finding a twenty-dollar bill on the sidewalk. But psychologists who study this topic say that some people are consistently luckier than others, and that luck is less about chance than it is about how you move through the world.

2w ago

Adults spend so much time in environments where they're trying to control the outcome that play as a practice becomes about not knowing, not having an attachment to what the outcome is. Side quests release us from worrying about the outcome. Learning begins with inquiry. In fact, the word quest comes from the root question or inquiry.

2w ago

It made no sense: why couldn't she eat something that she had routinely enjoyed for decades?

3w ago

The truth is that virtue is not different than any other skill. You don't have it or not have it. You do it or you don't do it. And you get better at it the more you do it. This is the fundamental insight of Aristotle, that excellence is not innate. It is a habit.

3w ago

Most of us recognize that we don't always act in our own best interests. We procrastinate. We reach for the candy bar instead of the apple. We say things we later regret. Psychologists have long recognized that our behavior is shaped by mental maps — internal representations of the world that guide our actions, often without our awareness.

4w ago

our brains actually navigate the world by coming up with mental maps. These maps act like an autopilot system, allowing us to navigate our lives more efficiently. But sometimes, they can lead us astray, leaving us stuck on a path of negativity and unhappiness.

4w ago

When we think about making changes in our lives, we typically focus on behaviors. But often, the more powerful lever is the mental map we're using to navigate the world. If the map is wrong, no amount of effort will get us to our destination.

4w ago

When we kind of learn how to check back in with our bodies, right? And we don't have to rely on external cues to do that, right, that behavior is much more likely to stick.

4w ago

When we compare brain activity after movement versus after sitting, the differences are so striking. The brain after movement looks like one certainly far more ready to learn and to work, and yet somewhere along the way, we decided that sitting and staring in front of a computer screen for eight hours straight is the best way to work.

4w ago

These maps act like an autopilot system, allowing us to navigate our lives more efficiently. But sometimes, they can lead us astray, leaving us stuck on a path of negativity and unhappiness.

4w ago

When we compare brain activity after movement versus after sitting, the differences are so striking. The brain after movement looks like one certainly far more ready to learn and to work, and yet somewhere along the way, we decide that sitting and staring in front of a computer screen for eight hours straight is the best way to work.

1mo ago

Most of us think of spirituality as something that happens when we have extraordinary experiences — when we see something beautiful, hear a piece of music that moves us to tears, or find ourselves confronted with the vastness of the universe. But Andrew says the research suggests something different: that spiritual experiences are available to all of us, and that we can cultivate them through intentional practice.

1mo ago

Stoicism is not something you are, it's something you do, right? It's a practice. John Adams would say that Washington had a great self-command, but that required a great amount of work.

1mo ago

The rule of thirds is that when you're chasing a dream or doing anything hard, you're supposed to feel good a third of the time, OK a third of the time and crappy a third of the time. If you're within this ratio, then the bad days aren't bad. They just mean you're chasing a dream.

1mo ago

Most of us think of rituals as ceremonies attached to special occasions. But researchers have found that everyday rituals — the small, patterned behaviors we engage in regularly — can be a source of profound connection. Unlike habits, which we perform mindlessly, rituals are imbued with meaning. They signal to others and ourselves that something matters.

1mo ago

You are never going to be Superman unless you suddenly find a lot of money from somewhere. You are never going to be Batman. But, there's always that chance, isn't there, that you could one day be Captain America.

1mo ago

If your choices are beautiful, then you will be beautiful. We are the product of our choices. Beauty can't be separated from the process, from the regiment that creates it.

1mo ago

Most people assume that creativity is a fixed trait — you either have it or you don't. But research suggests that creativity is less like a gift and more like a muscle: it can be developed, strengthened, and yes, sometimes exhausted.

2mo ago

Most people think about creativity as a gift — something you either have or you don't. But research suggests that creativity is less like a trait and more like a muscle: it can atrophy if you don't use it, and it can grow stronger with practice.

2mo ago

Most people think that creativity is something you either have or you don't — that it's a fixed trait, like eye color. But researchers who study creativity say this belief is not only wrong, it may actually be preventing people from thinking creatively.

2mo ago

We worry so much about the blank page or the blank canvas. But research suggests that placing too high a premium on originality can actually be a creativity killer. When we feel we have to be original, we become self-conscious, and self-consciousness is the enemy of creativity.

2mo ago

Most people assume that creativity is a trait — you either have it or you don't. But research suggests that creativity is less like a fixed ability and more like a muscle: it can be strengthened with practice, and it can also atrophy when it goes unused.

2mo ago

What if the actual reward is not accomplishment but the act of creating? The finished products and trappings of creative accomplishment are often seen as the goal. But I believe that the act of making is like oxygen. When the making stops, it becomes hard to breathe.

2mo ago

I was drinking a greens powder and looked up in the corner of the room and I was just like, there's no way I'm keeping this habit past 30 days. Um, so that was sort of the epiphany of, hey, how do I take uh something as robust and comprehensive and make it into a form factor that could build a habit for consumer.

4mo ago

How do I take uh something as robust and comprehensive and make it into a form factor that could build a habit for consumer. Make it something they look forward to. They go to bed at night thinking about, excited about taking Gruns the next day.

4mo ago

I think peak subscription refers to subscriptions that don't deliver a lot of value because it's so easy I think to sign up for an app or you know a service and then maybe even forget about it and then six months later you look at say I haven't been using this or I haven't been consuming it.

4mo ago

I can't go on. I'll go on. And I really did not know how I could go from I can't go on to I'll go on. And that's when I started thinking about this idea of devoting myself to everyday joys or like cultivating these tiny victories, like just having a different metric for what would make me happy or also how I could stay engaged in life?

4mo ago

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