Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or quickly move on and try to forget about it. But neither of these responses is optimal. The most effective approach is to sit with the discomfort of a mistake long enough to extract its lessons, but not so long that you become mired in self-criticism.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

We don't learn from experience, we learn from reflecting on experience. If you have a really challenging experience and you just move on, you're not going to get any wiser. You need to actually stop and reflect on what happened.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or rationalize why the mistake wasn't really their fault. Both responses are understandable, but neither helps you do better in the future.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most of us think we learn from our mistakes, but researchers have found that people often fail to extract useful lessons from their failures. Instead, we focus on the pain of the mistake itself, and quickly move on — which means we're doomed to repeat it.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or they get defensive and try to pretend it didn't happen. But there's a third option: to get curious about what went wrong and why — to treat mistakes as information rather than as indictments of your character.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most of us think of failure as something to move past as quickly as possible — something to hide or explain away. But researchers have found that the people who benefit most from their mistakes are those who do the opposite: they slow down, sit with the discomfort, and try to understand exactly what went wrong and why.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most people, when they make a mistake, do one of two things: They beat themselves up, or they rationalize away the mistake and blame other people. Neither approach actually helps you learn and do better in the future.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

Most people, when they make a mistake, either beat themselves up or they get defensive and they deny that they made a mistake at all. Both of those responses are understandable — but both make it harder to actually learn from what went wrong.

Hidden Brain

Making the Most of Your Mistakes

We have a very egocentric view of our mistakes. We're thinking about how does this reflect on me, how does it make me look. And I think when we do that, we actually lose an opportunity to be curious about the mistake, to learn from the mistake, to understand what really went wrong.

Hidden Brain

You Are Not Ordinary

Most of us know, of course, that we are not actually the center of the universe. But we often act as if we are. We notice when we are the victim of rudeness, but we rarely think about all the times when other people were rude and we weren't around to experience it.

Hidden Brain

You Are Not Ordinary

Most of us recognize that we're shaped by our upbringing and our culture. But researchers who study self-awareness say there's something even more fundamental at work: our failure to realize how different we are from other people. We think everyone sees the world the way we do — that our reactions, our values, our fears, and our hopes are simply the normal human response to life.

Hidden Brain

You Are Not Ordinary

Most of us intuitively feel that we are above average in a variety of ways. We think we're smarter than average, more competent than average, more ethical than average. Psychologists have documented that people's assessments of themselves are, to put it charitably, often not well-calibrated.

TED

Life Lessons from the DJ Booth | ELEW | TED

My mantra is: my mind is the club, I am the DJ [and] my choices affect the atmosphere -- so let's keep that atmosphere groovy.

Hidden Brain

Changing Our Mental Maps

We all have mental maps — representations of how we see ourselves and the world. But the amazing thing is, many of us use mental maps that were drawn up a long time ago, in a completely different context. And we continue to use them, even when the world changes, and even when we change.

Hidden Brain

Changing Our Mental Maps

Most of us recognize that we don't always act in our own best interests. We procrastinate. We reach for the candy bar instead of the apple. We say things we later regret. Psychologists have long recognized that our behavior is shaped by mental maps — internal representations of the world that guide our actions, often without our awareness.

Office Hours

Is an MBA Still Worth the Debt? Scott Galloway Breaks Down the Numbers | Office Hours

Business school is really for what I call the elite and the aimless. I was in investment banking before business school didn't know what I wanted to do next. Just knew I didn't want to be in investment banking.

Hidden Brain

Changing Our Mental Maps

We often think of our beliefs and mental models as reflections of reality — accurate maps of the world that help us navigate our lives. But what happens when the map is wrong? What happens when the map itself is the problem?

Daily Stoic

12 Lessons From Marcus Aurelius To Change Your Life

Ask yourself, am I afraid of death because I won't be able to do this anymore? People in the abstract want to live a long time and then you look at how they spend their days and it's on some of the dumbest imaginable, right? They spend it gossiping. They spend it complaining. They spend it working a job they don't like.

Daily Stoic

How to Feel Everything Without Losing Control With Dr. Becky Kennedy

A lot of us were either raised to try to kick them out of the car, right? Like you're so annoying. my car would be a lot more peaceful if you were just out. But you can't kick feelings out of the car. It's just a biological impossibility. Or what happens cuz we either try so hard to do that and we fail is then the feelings in the back seat take over the driver's seat.

Book of the Day

In 'Names Have Been Changed,' a criminal on the run confesses her story on a podcast

I think the way we speak, like you know, the body, the way we actually make the sounds and especially when we're talking to ourselves in, you know, what we would call our natural voices, like that is in some way maybe the most honest part of ourselves coming out.

Hidden Brain

A Secret Source of Connection

We assume that the people we talk to notice and think about us more than they actually do. And we assume that we know what other people are thinking and feeling — that we can read their minds. But we are often wrong about this.

Hidden Brain

Who Are You, Really?

You're not the same person with your friends as you are with your co-workers or your kids. So who are you, really?

Hidden Brain

Radical Acceptance

accepting reality as it is can be so difficult — and why it's an essential first step in building a meaningful life

Code Switch

The minefields of parenting and race | Code Switch

Parenting activates all these anxieties and all this urgency around our identities and how we move through the world.

It's Been a Minute

How to survive a millennial midlife crisis | It's Been A Minute

Our lives aren't falling apart because they haven't come together. Am I going to get it together in the next 40? I didn't get it the first 40.

Hidden Brain

Radical Acceptance

Dave shares why accepting reality as it is can be so difficult — and why it's an essential first step in building a meaningful life.

Wild Card

Ada Limón talks forgiveness, ghosts and fertility on 'Wild Card'

I think not only in my life and in my heart, I am always trying to remind myself that I am here. Not just on this planet, but in this moment.

Fresh Air

Actor Oscar Isaac is ‘a vulture’ of his own life

I'm a vulture of my own life, in a way. I look at my own life and I'm constantly picking it apart and using it.

TBPN

Chad Janis: How I Sold Grüns to Unilever for $1.2B

I was drinking a greens powder and looked up in the corner of the room and I was just like, there's no way I'm keeping this habit past 30 days. Um, so that was sort of the epiphany of, hey, how do I take uh something as robust and comprehensive and make it into a form factor that could build a habit for consumer.

It's Been A Minute

The hard work of having "good taste" | It's Been A Minute

And you can't have taste without existing. Like, you can't have taste if you have no self that the taste is built upon, you know?

TED Radio Hour

A neuroscientist's guide to managing our emotions

Our brain is like our very own Stradivarius. When our emotions are triggered out of proportions, that's akin to me trying to play a Stradivarius violin. It can cause enormous pain for both the player as well as those around us.

Pivot

MAGA Civil War Erupts Over Iran | Pivot

Introspection is how we move forward as a species. It was like Socrates, Plato, Marcus Aurelius, like it's been around.

Prof G Markets

The 35% Recession Warning Markets Are Ignoring | Prof G Markets

I realized I was walking around walking around sort of alone. It was either like I need to go deep in the pain and get drunk and get a lot more social or I need to go home.

Prof G Markets

The 35% Recession Warning Markets Are Ignoring | Prof G Markets

I realized I was walking around sort of alone. It was either like I need to go deep in the pain and get drunk and get a lot more social or I need to go home. And I just had sensory I was just overstimulated and decided to pull the rip cord and actually went home fairly early.

Fresh Air

Jill Scott is in her ‘auntie’ era

You're not even choosing what you actually like. There's always disturbed me, quite frankly, that you're not even choosing what you actually like.

It's Been a Minute

Is tech making us too obsessed with our bodies? | It's Been A Minute

Even if you're not paying attention to how your body is feeling, you're paying attention to those metrics.

Prof G Markets

You Think You're Diversified. AI Disagrees. | Prof G Markets

I want to say I've written more books than I've read in the last 5 years. That that that would um reveal me for the pseudointellectual douchebag I actually am.

Pivot

Tim Walz is "Petty As Hell" After Kristi Noem Firing | Pivot

Well, I was trying to act all serious and say, you know, I'm not a petty person. And then I checked myself and I said, in this case, I'm petty as hell.

Book of the Day

In new memoir, Gavin Newsom reflects on his political rise | NPR's Book of the Day

I'm just offering a glimpse of some of the things that people may not see, of sweaty hands, of anxiety, insecurity, of trying to be someone I'm not, of making mistakes, learning from those mistakes.

Henry Oliver

Henry Oliver on Measure for Measure, Late Bloomers, and the Smartest Writers in English

Measure for Measure is saying no individual can be consistent with their own ideas. And Isabella makes a point of that again and again. We cannot weigh our brother with ourself. And the whole, I think, point of the play is to say, you must weigh yourself in the balance.