Most people, when they learn that their neighbors are doing something — whether it's conserving energy or paying their taxes on time — are more likely to do it themselves. But here's the odd thing: when researchers ask people whether learning about social norms changes their own behavior, most people say no. They acknowledge it might change others, but not them.
If you give people a sense of what's actually happening, that you give them a realistic view of what other people in their situation are actually doing, sometimes people will say, 'Oh, I thought I was already doing more than the average, but it turns out I'm not. Maybe I should do more.'
My generation was told that we could have it all. And that meant that you could have a career, a successful career and children and a family and a home. But sometimes I feel like perhaps the men weren't told that. And so the society wasn't told that.
I think what is so different about the way specifically men of their generation, which is Gen Z, they're in their very early 20s, and my generation, which is about 10 years older than that, is that they have so much more shame around the amount of pornography they watch.
When my brothers moved to the UK, they switched to jeans right away. Nobody had any problem with it. But as soon as a girl decided to wear a pair of jeans, it became a whole issue.
Women have long been more likely than men to struggle with or being diagnosed with depression and anxiety... women's suffering, it's quiet because it's women have had to suffer quietly for a very long time.
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